A commitment to “a safe night out” isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. Yes, there will be times that you take action and you feel like a rock star, people appreciate you, and your co-workers sing your praises. But there will also be times when you interrupt behavior and things get messy, people get mad, or they just don’t want your help.
If we don’t take the time to care for ourselves then the moments when things don't go right become obstacles that keep us from helping in the future. The SAFE Bar Network has 5 self-care tips for a more confident you.
1. Be present.
Focus on the moment you are in. Take a minute to look around you and make note of what you see. Try narrating what you are doing. Make a point to slow down and focus on one task.
2. Connect.
Take a second to share a smile with someone. Set aside a minute to give someone a compliment. Get curious and ask a question. Take a few minutes to share a challenge with someone and seek their support.
3. Use humor.
Humor is a powerful stress buster. Share a laugh with someone. Tell a joke, laugh at yourself, or try to find the humor in something that would otherwise not be so funny.
4. Empathy.
Take a minute to understand the people around you. Be curious about what motivates them and give them the benefit of the doubt. Then, look in the mirror, and do the same for yourself.
5. It’s not personal.
We’re all on our own journey. It’s often true that someone’s reaction to you tells you more about them than it does about you. Shake it off. Do something nice for yourself.
Our partners over at MOCSA have a great Self-Care Page with links to apps, articles, books, social media, podcasts and more.
If you have a favorite bar, restaurant or night club encourage them to join the SAFE Bar Network. They can learn more at www.safebarnetwork.org
If you or someone you know has experienced sexual harassment or sexual assault our partners can help. Visit MOCSA and RAINN
To learn more about the field of sexual violence response and prevention visit PreventConnect and NSVRC.
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