You don’t have to work in a bar or nightclub to notice when someone is uncomfortable or unsafe, take action to help them, and offer your support. Our simple active bystander skills work for anyone, anywhere.
You don’t have to be an expert on the dynamics of sexual harassment and sexual assault to notice when something isn’t right. Trust your gut. If you see someone who is uncomfortable or unsafe take action to help.
For far too long we’ve talked about bystander intervention as if there is only one solution – to put on a cape, be the hero, and confront the person causing the problem. Yes, that works. But there are so many other options that work just as well and may be better for the situation.
There are going to be times when you take action and it feels really good. But there are also going to be times when you try to help someone and it’s a bit more complicated. Maybe it doesn’t feel good. Maybe you’re not sure how to feel. Tell someone you trust what happened, call a hotline, message the SAFE Bar Network. And when the time comes, be ready to pay-it-forward by offering support to someone else.
We've learned from some of the best bar owners and managers around what it takes to continue having conversations about bystander intervention. We're sharing their expertise with you through a guide to help have conversations about noticing concerning behavior, interrupting effectively, and offering support to create a fun and safe atmosphere.
If you or someone you know has experienced sexual harassment or sexual assault there are organizations here to help.