Tips, Tips, and More Tips for a SAFE Night Out
At the SAFE Bar Network, we partner with bars and other alcohol-serving venues to give everyone a safe night out. How do we do it? Through continued conversations about noticing when someone is unsafe or uncomfortable, interrupting in a way that helps, and supporting each other to take action.
The skills are simple, the magic happens when we come together to have a conversation about creating safe spaces. Here are three simple active bystander skills that you can practice every day.
1. Notice. You don’t have to be an expert on the dynamics of domestic violence or sexual harassment to notice when something isn’t right. Trust your gut. If you see someone is uncomfortable or unsafe do something to help. Watch this quick video for examples.
2. Take Action. For far too long we’ve talked about bystander intervention as if there is only one solution – to put on a cape, be the hero, and confront the person causing the problem. Yes, that works. But there are so many other options that work just as well and may be better for the situation.
· Do Something Yourself. Talk to the person causing the problem, check in with the person being hurt.
· Get Others to Help. Get your outgoing friend to say something, check in with the people around you and make it a team effort.
· Talk About Something Else. Create a cleaver distraction by starting a conversation, or say you need help finding the restroom, this is your chance to be creative.
For more ideas check out this short video.
3. Give Support. Get Support. There are going to be times when you take action and it feels really good. But there are also going to be times when you try to help someone and it’s a bit more complicated. Maybe it doesn’t feel good. Maybe you’re not sure how to feel. Tell someone you trust what happened and when the time comes, be ready to pay it forward by offering support to someone else. Learn how supporting others can change the culture, watch here.
A quick note about obstacles. There will always be things that get in the way of you helping someone when you notice something concerning. Stepping in to help is not about overcoming these obstacles, it’s about finding solutions that work for you.
SAFE Bar Training conversations are simple, manageable, and they work – but you don’t have to take our word for it. Check out these real-life, Everyday Active Bystanders.
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To learn more about active bystander skills check out our blog post, Obstacles. What obstacles? 3 Full Proof Everyday Active Bystander Skills.
Interested in learning more about bystander intervention? Visit our friends at With Us Center for Bystander Intervention.