A Few Things You Should Know About Sexual Harassment
If someone asked you to explain sexual harassment, could you do it?
Go ahead, give it a try!
My guess is that you would do a pretty good job explaining sexual harassment and that your definition would have some combination of the words unwanted and sexual. You would be spot on. The concept of sexual harassment is pretty straight forward. What complicates our understanding of sexual harassment is communication, relationships, power.
Sexual harassment is anything unwanted and sexual. As individuals, we decide if something is unwanted for ourselves. Simply put, if my coworker is telling me a sexual joke I get to decide if that joke makes me uncomfortable or not. Body language, facial expressions, comments, etc. let us know when someone is uncomfortable.
What does it mean for something to be sexual? Something is sexual if it has to do with someone’s gender (ex. he throws like a girl), sexuality (ex. that’s gay), or body (ex. you look sexy).
Now the complicated part, sexual harassment doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It happens at work, with friends, with customers, and with family members. These relationships, how much power we have in a situation, and our comfort talking about boundaries impact these experiences for us.
For example, if I’m going out with my girlfriends and one of them tells me I look sexy my response is going to be, "thanks!" If an acquaintance at dinner tells me I look sexy my response is going to be, silence and a look of confusion. If a stranger at the bar tells me I look sexy I’m going to be uncomfortable and looking for my friends to help me out of the situation. The statement is the same, "you look sexy," but based on my relationships and how comfortable I feel in the situation my reaction and the harm I feel is different.
Talk to anyone working in the hospitality and entertainment industries and they will tell you that sexual harassment not only exists but that it is prevalent. When people don’t feel comfortable confronting sexual harassment, the result is that the uncomfortable and unsafe behavior becomes normal.
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